DEAR DAD: TIPS FOR WEEK ONE (don’t get your balls busted for bad prep)
Feeling freaked about what lies ahead? You’re not on your own.
You’ve been the innocent bystander for the past nine months, watching your partner morph, but now it’s time to dig deep and take hold of your inner-DAD!
Don’t get your balls busted for bad prep. Meet your bub’s arrival with your marriage (and man-hood) in-tact; play these weeks well and you’ll come out looking like a hero. 1. Get car capsule in* early!
Your first and most practical gift to your pregnant partner. This tells her you’re planning for the arrival of your baby too and that you take your family’s safety seriously. Do it without her asking and she’ll love that you’re ahead of the game. What are you waiting for? Do it.
Do it and do it early too; no good faffing around after bub’s born, she’ll need you present. Plus, it’s kinda fun too, looking in your car’s rear vision mirror at the expectant-capsule – nawww.
2. Get the house squeaky clean
The love of your life is well aware that you’ve been wearing the same clothes all week, eating pizza (in between your visits to her in hospital) and that you’ve been celebrating your new-dad status with a cold each night. However, she does not want to see evidence of it when she brings your precious, pure bundle home for the first time.
Your home should smell like a fresh garden, primped to perfection, dishes away, floors scrubbed and clothes washed. If you can’t manage to get the house quite literally sterilised from top to toe, hire someone who can! Flowers in a vase too. She’ll love you. You’re welcome.
3. Buy her new undies
If you’ve got the guts, buy her some freshies because her old ones will no longer be up to the task. Department store staff will help you choose well. If you buy too slinky it won’t have the effect you’re hoping for; choose some nice and comfy ones and she’ll love you ‘to the moon and..’ be ‘back’ to sexy quicker too, boom!
4. Her boobs are OFF LIMITS
It’s tough work not to ogle at her impressive breasts but they’ll be more off-limits than they’ve ever been; they are purely milk factories for now.
Be considerate of the hormonal cocktail pulsing through your partner’s body before you make a comment like: ‘wow! check out the rack on that’! She won’t appreciate it now (and btw, probably never will).
5. Optimise HER sleep
However physically tired or beat-up you might feel right now, think rationally about what your complaint will sound like to your partner. You are going to be SOOO tired, but if having just given birth to a newborn was a game of cards, your partner will trump you, every time!
That remarkable woman of yours will be feeding baby every two to three hours around the clock for the coming weeks. This is where you’re worth your weight in gold; do ANYTHING that makes her life easier, be the hands-on partner of her dreams. When she’s feeding baby, make sure she has a fresh glass of water, feeding pillow and ‘spew cloth’ on-hand. And when she’s finished feeding baby, you take the baby, change her nappy, wrap her and settle her back to sleep.
6. Maximise your baby bonding
Here’s your chance to form the first imperative and precious bonds with your new baby; and an opportunity for you to build confidence in your new role. Why not take baby for regular walks in the pram or ‘wear’ her in a soft carrier; you’ll become the apple of each other’s eyes 🙂
Perhaps you could take your top off and snuggle down with baby; talk to her and sing over her. She’ll recognise your voice and become familiar with your scent – even if you stink she’ll think you’re swweeet 🙂
These are the days that your partner will remember; the formative days are an opportunity to set the tone for all the years to come. The choices you make today will quite literally become the bedrock on which your family builds its future and that’s no small thing.
You’ll have more respect for your woman than you ever have too. Enjoy watching her morph through these early weeks of motherhood. Cherish her, love-on your new bundle and remember to look after you too.
You’re well prepped-up now and you’re going to be so great at this, you’re just what they need.
On behalf of your partner… hugs from the ether…